Who doesn’t love to receive gifts?
I might love giving gifts more.
Only a few people know I would love
to be a personal gift shopper.
I even know what I would call myself.
At this very moment in my life, it seems outlandish
so for now I’ll keep the name close to my heart,
because you never know ;)
I want to share a little about my mindset when
it comes to gift giving.
Before you assume every gift I’ve given has been
stellar and met with rave reviews,
I have most assuredly given my fair share of clunkers.
In fact some of you reading are nodding your heads
in hearty agreement. (Sorry.)
My tips and thoughts are intended to help you learn from
my feeble attempts.
I would guess 90% of those less than favorable
gifts have been for two reasons:
- Lack of time
- Trying to hard
My first word of advice is to allow plenty
of lead time before you approach a gift deadline.
Set a phone reminder to alert you to start the decision
process or to put a card in the mail
(words can be a precious timely gift).
Hurry is the enemy of creativity and gift giving.
“It’s the thought that counts” is a saying which has often
strayed from its original intent to being a verbal way
to let ourselves off the hook when we doubt
our gift efforts.
With some forethought, you can make your gifts count.
There are a multitude of reasons to give a gift.
To me, whether the occasion is celebratory or
I give gifts to show love,
and to make people feel known.
The times when I have tried too hard have been occasions
when I have misspent my time trying to impress rather
than remembering the true aim of giving a gift.
Ask yourself this question:
Will this gift make the recipient
show my concern
Now that you have secured time to think about
If you don’t follow any of my tips, obey this one.
I firmly believe most people in our lives will
tell us unknowingly the gifts they would like.
If you take the time to listen to what someone is saying
or the words they seem to repeat, you are miles ahead
in choosing the right gift.
A meaningful gift is all about discovering what
a person needs more than what you think they want.
Hear them loud and clear when they talk about their
passions, dreams and goals.
Lean closer and listen to their hobby chatter.
Do they crave time to recharge or to be pampered?
Have they repeatedly borrowed something of yours?
Now is the perfect time to buy them one
of their own.
Oh and those cookies always getting raves
from a certain someone,
pile them high on a plate and attach the recipe.
When people mention any of their favorite things,
remember by jotting down a note.
Listening helps you become an expert on
a person’s life.
Who doesn’t want to hear those wonderful words,
“How did you know?”
when a present
is all because of the art of listening well.
Get your Sherlock Holmes on
What happens when you haven’t been
listening and you need a gift pronto?
This is the time to look for clues.
Reread a few newsy emails.
Take a look at their Facebook or Instagram
Reflect on what season in life they are currently
Are they nearing retirement or juggling toddlers?
Approaching an empty nest or returning to the work force?
What area of struggle is present in their lives?
Gifts don’t always have to fit in a box or bag.
Bring a meal to an overwhelmed friend.
Soft athletic socks tied with a ribbon to
someone trying to get back on the fitness trail.
Or a night of free babysitting for a single mom or
a sleep deprived couple.
Ponder what would be meaningful to this person in
this particular time in their life.
If you are still drawing a blank or if
all your sleuthing efforts have failed, you can simply
A gift doesn’t have to be a surprise.
You can always ask the people in your life,
what ways or things would
add value to their lives.
Hopefully they won’t ask for a Maserati but if
they do, this is an opportunity to share a laugh together.
Asking signals to a person you care and are thinking about
This is a great gift by itself.
I believe most people will surprise us by what they really need.
You may discover a wonderful way to give a gift
without panicking or requiring hours walking store aisles.
Often people want our time,
or even our skills which they lack.
Maybe an elderly relative would love a
weekly phone call or chat over tea.
You might have a flair for decorating and
a friend who could use your expertise.
Let the people in your life surprise you by
being bold enough to ask.
Before I begin the process of thinking,
during the procuring and
after the giving of a gift,
I pray I have listened well.
I pray I have looked over the
details of their life and discerned them
I pray I would choose a gift
resembling them and not me.
I pray for God’s creativity and mind
to flow into me so I can truly bless
Then I open my hands and extend
the gift to be claimed.
Happy gift giving during
this season and beyond.