Our family has had its share of milestones lately…to name a few:
- Carlen is now a licensed driver
- Carlen is a senior in high school
- Carlen turned 18
- Courtney is a freshman in high school
- Courtney made the junior varsity soccer team
- Caleb turned 4
- Caleb started preschool
- I have begun to color my hair!!!!
There have been days where I will stand in amazement to discover that my children have reached the ages that they are…I truly shake my head in disbelief…where has the time gone is a common question so many parents ask themselves and others. Time marches steadily along even when you know this fact all too well.
Yet in my frequent state of shock, I also realize that there have been many occasions when I have wanted nothing more than to speed up time.
The arrival of our firecracker Caleb brought considerable joy to our family but it was a huge adjustment for all of us. He was not an easy newborn, infant, toddler…even using the word “easy” reveals that I was not satisfied. No matter what parenting technique I used or even my previous years of experience, I couldn’t make him do what I wanted him desperately to do. He truly didn’t sleep through the night consistently until he was 2. In fact, I can count the times he has fallen asleep in the car on both hands…and he is four…this includes 350 mile trips to see his grandparents. He was nearing 4 when he was completely potty trained.
Because he has two much older sisters, he is rarely in need of a babysitter…thus he has always been difficult to leave in the church nursery, preschool, etc.
If I had a dollar for every time I have said to Carl the following utterances….well, you know the rest:
- When will he sleep through the night?
- Will he potty trained before high school?
- Will we ever be able to leave him without a meltdown?
It caused me untold amounts of stress and anxiety and was definitely the focus of my daily prayers. Probably the source of needing to cover my ever changing hair follicles.
So…although Caleb wore his new school backpack the entire night before his first day of preschool, I was still anticipating that I would not be able to separate from him. We walked into the classroom, he hung up his coat and backpack and much to my amazement he said, ” Bye Mom, I will see you later!” followed by a hug and a kiss.
MILESTONE: a significant point in development
CONTENTMENT: to be pleased, satisfied, willing,
When my girls were much younger, we did a devotional based on the Hannah Hurnard book Hinds’ Feet on High Places…during one of the days we learned the following rhyme which is still repeated from time to time even now:
Be content with what God sent!
I know that my struggle is common to man…I struggle with my present circumstances and then when they pass me by, I wonder why I was having a fit. A part of me is so excited for Carlen’s foray into adulthood and another part of me wants to still be able to pick her up when she is wounded by the world. I can’t believe I have struggled so much with Caleb’s separation difficulties and yet when HE was ready and it was time, he walked into a new stage. Could you imagine if the Lord paced around and complained whenever we didn’t do things according to His plans or time table? Yet He is loving and kind and oh so, patient and don’t forget merciful and slow to anger.
“But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and we can take nothing out of it.”
I Timothy 6: 6, 7
The study notes in my Bible state: “This statement is the key to spiritual growth and personal fulfillment. We should honor God and center our desires on him (godliness) and should be content with what God is doing in our lives.”
I think it is time that I reached a milestone as well related to contentment in my life. All the days of my life have been written in advance for me by my Maker…I can choose to embrace them or fight against them. I can choose to complain or willingly accept them and be at peace with God and man.
“Lord, you have assigned me my portion and my cup;
you have made my lot secure.
The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places;
surely I have a delightful inheritance.”
Psalm 16: 5, 6
How’s your contentment quotient today?